Relationship Goals::Week Two
The RESOLUTION Goal:
I will work for RESOLUTION and not VICTORY.
Healthy couples fight CLEAN. Unhealthy couples fight DIRTY.
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. James 1:19–20 (NLT)
RULES FOR THE FIGHT:
1. BE QUICK TO LISTEN
2. BE SLOW TO SPEAK
3. BE SLOW TO BECOME ANGRY
FOUR HORSEMEN OF AN UNFAIR FIGHT: (DR. JOHN GOTTMAN)
HOW TO RESPOND IN CONFLICT:
1. DON’T REACT IN EMOTION, RESPOND IN THE SPIRIT.
2. CONFRONT TO HEAL AND NOT TO WIN.
3. FORGIVE. APOLOGIZE.
4. RUN TOWARDS RECONNECTION
Don’t fight against each other.
Fight against the enemy and fight for your marriage.
Use the BLESSING TOOL.